Try this.

Never say no to your significant other.  Seriously.  Give it a try.

When they ask for something, at worst just look at them, put yourself in a timeout, and then do it.  And do it with good intentions.

Here is what is going to happen if you do this consistently:

They will have the most amazingly good opinion of you, better than before.

They may even stop asking you to do stuff they should not have asked you to do in the first place.

When they ask you to do something that crosses the border on “really, you are asking me to do what?”, you can just say nothing and look them in the eyes, and wait a few seconds to see if they are aware that what they are asking you to do is something truly necessary.  They may even withdraw the request.

And, you are going to be much more aware of what you ask them (and others) to do.

Asking you, to have a great day,

Because, each one is a gift - and you can’t say no to that,

David/